Uncertainty filled the air as pulled up to the house mid afternoon . It would be the first time I have spent twenty-four hours with his family for more than four hours. He is not expected to be home until another two long hours.
As I unlocked the car door, out came his brothers with open arms, who welcomed me to their home and assisted with my suitcases- everyone knew I was pregnant so I was only allow to lift my plate. When the car was unloaded, I said my hellos, took the keeps to my home for two weeks and left with my sister since I do not like being around strangers.
Two hours later, my baby daddy called to say he was on his way home. Numerous emotions and thoughts emerged. “Will this work? Will I fall in love with him? Am I willing to share space with someone I am just beginning to know?”
There I sat under the trees talking to my sister when a taxi pulled up. A dark 6ft 4″ tall, with a wide smile greeted me. I stood with a childish grin from ear to ear as he walked towards me. He planted a gentle kiss on my forehead, hugged me tightly while I tip toed to meet his lips. For about five minutes, we stood,held each other, and reflected on he life we had planned for ourselves vs our reality. A couple months ago we were total strangers and in three days we were about to be husband and wife -parents of an unplanned child we both welcomed.
We were never in-love. We were happy a good time that lead to life changing decisions for the betterment of our child.
Love takes time. It’s a process not a goal. Love is something that needs to be nurtured. But if there is one thing I urge you to start immediately it’s focus on bringing out the best in each person on your team. When you love someone you want the best for him. You want him to shine. And the best way to do this is to help him discover the value inside him.