Tears is a language spoken by the heart.
We have met people in our lifetime who are worthy of our tears and those who are not. Cry if you must, it’s therapy. The tears you shed today can be the beginning of a chapter. After the death of a loved one, things changes. The last month has been very challenging. I have met people who are mourning the loss of both parents, who died over 10 years ago. Their wounds seen so fresh. Days like Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are the worst for them. They bury themselves in work to hide their grief. A hug, text or “I care” from a friend makes the day brighter.
Try to smile or share an encouraging word with the next person you meet. You have no idea what they are going through. A listening ear goes a long way.
For a period, you are down but with time your wounds heal. Similarly does the wound of a relationship heal. Men, never think that you are less of man because you are emotional. Be in touch with your feelings. It is always OK to express the way you feel. There is nothing more appealing than a man who is in touch with his feelings. Cry on someone’s shoulder if you must, to ease your pain.
As the pain lessens, do the things you love. Reflect on the person you are and who you intend to be. Focus your energy on self-actualization. There are always things about yourself that can be improved. You are never alone in this world contrary to how you feel when you are hurting.
I too have had my fair share of pain and heartbreak.
Driving along the country roads of St. Ann Jamaica, a pleasant smell of food brings a smile to ones face. This smell can be coming from a roadside vendor or one of many local food establishments. Whether you are a local or a tourist, Jerk chicken is a must have whenever you visit this island. If you have visited Jamaica and had have not ventured outside of your hotel, you have not experienced authentic jerk chicken. In early 2017 a visit to a popular hotel led to this conclusion. The area serving jerked chicken was flocked by tourist. I waited in line for 15 minutes to have this sought after meal. As I waited in line for my turn, I noticed that the chicken was not placed on the grill for a long time. “I cannot believe you had me standing in line to have rotisserie chicken placed on a grill with smoked flavor”. The chef replied, “You are Jamaican right?’ You know jerk chicken takes time to prepare and we do not have that time”. I just shock my head and walked away.
Originated from the first inhabitants of Jamaica, (Arawak Indians/Tianos) who always prepared their meat by roasting it over fire. Dried tree logs and trunks were used to create the fire.
The chicken is cut into quarters, washed with vinegar or lemon juice, then dried and season with dried crushed pimento berries, onion, salt garlic and scotch bonnet pepper.
The seasoning is left over night to marinate. If all the items are not available to you, walkerswood has a mixture ready for use.
The seasoning is then brushed off the chicken. The chicken is then place on the grid over fire coals for about 45 minutes. During the cooking process, the chicken is sprinkled with Red Stripe. It remains on the fire until tender.
Jerked chicken is served with either rice and peas, bread, roasted breadfruit.
This meal is served for birthdays, family reunions, holiday functions, wedding and Christmas dinner.
Life is great, when you are being waited on hands and feet! Would it not be greater if you were just as nice as he/she was to you? Most women enjoy receiving gifts- chocolate, flowers, notes, diamonds or a cookie. Gift giving is not a daily requirement.It can be substituted with gestures. Nose,cheeks,forehead and neck kisses usually results in a smile on a woman’s face. It is OK for a man to be emotional and vulnerable to the woman he loves. Lover her harder.
Women, It is not always about you. Your man needs to feel valued. He seeks validation. Men love when their partner makes them happy. A card, whether hand written or bought will put a smile on this face. A gesture as this melts his heart (yes they get mushy too) knowing his actions are appreciated. Be sure to slip it under the pillow or somewhere he will find it. Love notes are known to make his day.
On you way home from work, grab a bottle of flavored massage oil, rub his shoulders. It might just be the beginning of a magical night.
Sex is very important in all intimate relationships. It creates an unexplained bond. Satisfying each others needs is mandatory. DO NOT fake it! Share your displeasure. Try various approaches to make it better. If you do not make you partner happy their is someone else who is willing to do so.